I know, it sounds odd for someone in the “people business” to say this, but it is a reality.
Week after week I have people come to me and say: “Can you help me?” a “I want to change, please tell me how?”
And you sit with them, give them wisdom and insight, then off they go and it is the same old, same old.
The ones that I personally find disconcerting are those that say they want to be leaders. You invest in them your time and resources, give them opportunity and they say thank you and do nothing with it.
People will only change if they want to.
That is why I wait when selecting leaders or promoting people.
That is why I take my time appointing leaders and that is why I watch and keep my eye out for the silent ones. The ones that don’t say much but week after week turn up and give of themselves in any way that they can.
In life, in leadership, in business about the only thing you can give people is…an opportunity.
So…if an opportunity is all you can give, how do you choose whom to give one to ?
1) The faithful
In leadership, always reward faithfulness.
Faithfulness is not a one time gig.
Faithfulness is the constant fulfillment of your obligations and commitments over time.
Christ encouraged us to be faithful in the little, and faithful in another mans. Why? Why would He have us prove ourselves in the small and in another life?
Because if we will be faithful in the details of life and if we will be faithful with that thing that someone else gives us to do, then we prove that we will be faithful when God releases much into our lives.
2) Those prepared to go above and beyond
Serving for some in life and in church today has become about preparing a platform for my future prominence. That is not serving. That is manipulation and politics. Serving is really doing what has been asked of you because it has been asked of you…and for no other reason than that.
3) Self starters and continual learners
For people to really change and to really find their place in church life they have to come to a place of revelation and relaxation.
A revelation of who God is and then relaxing and trusting that ALL things are in His hands.
These people position themselves for opportunity by doing what they can with what they’ve got.
They are continually learning, continually striving, continually making themselves valuable to have around.
4) Sons/Daughters of the house, not hirelings
There are people who are just in it for what they get out of it – money, position, power, recognition, that is fine. You know what their agenda is and you can make a decision to work with that or not.
But then their are people who are in it because they see it as something more.
To them it is personal.
To them it is family.
To them it is a passion and a reason.
Now these people may not be the most credentialed, but they are the most qualified.
You can always staff through hiring, you can only expand your family through adoption.
You have to bring people in, take the time to make them a part of the family.