According to Paul we have a ministry of reconciliation.
Now some have made this out to be that we should, man to man, be reconciled with each other, that everyone in the church should get on with everybody else but that is not what the scripture says:
2 Cor 5:18-19
All this is from God, who through Christ reconciled us to himself and gave us the ministry of reconciliation; that is, in Christ God was reconcilingthe world to himself, not counting their trespasses against them, and entrusting to us the message of reconciliation.
Also it is not what our experience shows us. There are just some people that you can not get on with or you just don’t want to get on with. People who live contrary to your values and belief systems, these might be people you have to cohabit the planet with, but not necessarily people you want to go on a two week cruise with to Alaska.
Paul did say however :
Rom 12:18
If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all.
This scriptures says three things to me:
1) I am to live peaceably with all - Christian and non Christian.
2) if possible…. there are going to be times where it is not possible.
3) depends upon me…. and the times when it is not possible will not depend upon me.
Some people you just don’t get on with. They manipulate, they lie, they misrepresent themselves and your to others.
With people like that, particluarly people who call themselves Christian, I get to a point and say to myself - you know what… the wherever possible bit means I am going to have to remove myself from this relationship and all contact with this person because I will not, (because of their actions, words and deeds) be able to keep peace with them if I am in contact with them.
Now with people who do not know Christ, I believe that is a different standard. To me, we don’t grow weary of doing good. We go back time and time again doing all, laying all down, sacrificing all for the cause of Christ and the reconciliation of man to his God.
To those that should know better - let them work out their salvation with fear and trembling (Phil 2:12).
I have wasted to much of my life trying to be liked by everyone and trying to get on with everyone. It is just never going to happen. I will try. I will do my best, I will commit myself to it, but in the odd case that it just isn’t going to work, I will quietly remove myself from the relationship. Casting no aspersions and making no accusations. I would rather that I look foolish and stupid than the name of Christ be called into disrepute.