I remember when we first got married, people wish us well and sent us off on our honeymoon….lots of smiles and teary farewells. We sort of had the impression that this would be the highlight of our life. People told us, our wedding day and honeymoon was going to be one of the greatest days we would ever know.
It was terrible. We fought like mad and continued to fight like that for close on the first 8 years of our marraige.
But our love was never based on an experience, it was never based on the beauty of the wedding, the wonder of the honeymoon destination. It was not based upon ‘my needs being meet’. It was based on a sense of destiny, a sense of calling, an over arching desire to love each other in spite of each other.
I was committed to being married to Beccy, not to experiencing Beccy. She was committed to loving me, not having her needs met.
Every week I see people come to church who have grow up in an ‘experienced based culture’.
Grown up being told that having their needs met is the most important thing in life.
That the world, the church, the politicians, there job is there to serve them and cater to there wants and desires. These organizations OWE them. Their families OWE them. Their spouses OWE them.
They come to church, they stay becasue they love the experience. They love the worship, they are amazed at the Word, the facilities, the kids program, etc., etc., etc.
Yet when God starts to require something of them. When He starts to convict them, challenge them, prod around in their stuff, they detach..they will not allow the Word to do the work. They love being immature. They love being the baby. They love being the receiver of grace and not the channel for grace.
Maturity is not about age, but about the acceptance of responsibility.
When we refuse to graduate from consumer to provider we are relegating ourselves to the place of a child.
Paul said there comes a time in every life when we must put away childish things to grow and walk in the full stature of what Christ has for us.
How many people are double over and crippled not by the burdens and pressures of the Christian walk, but by there refusal to simply grow up. They are weight down with selfishness. Weight down with immaturity, weight down with bitterness and frustration. Weight down with a victim mentality, weight down ‘you-dont- understand-me-itist’.
If my wife had been like that…we would never have made it. If I didn’t learn NOT to be like that, we would never had made it.
People will not make it in their walk with Christ becasue they refuse to graduate from Experience to Pursuit.
They won’t move from child to adult.
They won’t move from the recipient of grace to the giver of grace.
How shallow our lives have become and how shallow we have allowed our faith to become when it is all still about me…2, 5 or 20 years on.
Before you were saved it was all about you….now it is all about them.
I urge you in the Lord to graduate from a faith that is based upon what you feel, to a faith that is based upon what you know.
I urge you to graduate from a faith that is based upon your experience to one that is based upon your knowedge.
I urge you to graduate from a faith that is based upon what you can get from it to a faith that is based upon what you can give to it.
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